A Secret to Attraction

Posted on February 6, 2012 by JanetEisenbise

“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people
live in a hostile world. Same world.”
~Wayne Dyer~

Remember that old adage “In order to have a friend, you have to be a friend?” Well, like a lot of those old adages there is a level of truth in it that may not be obvious at first blush.

I was listening to someone telling me yesterday that she didn’t have anyone in her network that she could turn to for support and comfort. She was in dire straits and really needed it too.

Seems that she had some superficial friendships at work, but she didn’t trust anyone enough to tell them what was really going on. She had been burned in the past and wasn’t taking any chances.

Later another person was telling me that she didn’t have a life partner because there aren’t any good men out there. Now I would love to have a dollar for every time I’ve been told that by both women and men!

How do you suppose it is that some people have a great network of friends? And some have spouses with reasonably happy relationships? Are they just lucky? Is it because they are beautiful or handsome, have money or drive just the right car?

Ad companies would have us believe that. But it just ain’t so.

No doubt it has something to do with where you go and who you see. After all, no one is going to come knocking on your door and beg you to come out with them.

But I think it has more to do with who you are. This is where attraction comes in. For years the developments in the field of quantum physics has been revealing the principles of attraction that are naturally at work in everyday life. Essentially it means that we are creating the lives we have by attracting the elements to us.

Think of it like a big old magnet inside of you. You are magnetically drawing toward you what you need and desire in your life. But the secret to it is that the magnet matches who you really are. Our thoughts, beliefs and emotions vibrate at a particular frequency. We “broadcast” or emit that frequency and receive at the same frequency. If you have poor self esteem and pity yourself for all you lack, you can’t help but be receiving people into your life who vibrate at that same frequency.

So it does no good to wish for a mate who is reliable and honest if you are flighty and play loose with the truth. Or if you want someone is who trustworthy if you are not. Whatever you have on your list you need to BE. If you want a friend or mate with certain values, you need to live those values yourself.

While opposites in temperament sometimes do attract, generally speaking, successful people are drawn to other successful people. People who are kind and compassionate are generally drawn to similar people.

So after you make that list of qualities you desire in a relationship, check yourself out to see how you would fit the bill. What will it feel like to BE that yourself? When you can own that fully, and feel that fully, you will see that person you attracted coming your way.

Words to Live By

Posted on June 17, 2011 by JanetEisenbise

“And I believe that true brilliance is always compassionate; true brilliance is always kind. I believe intention is a vehicle of the kind brilliance of your soul. Here’s another way to look at it. Kind brilliance is the harmony of your left brain’s intelligence, your right brain’s creativity, and your heart’s compassion and intuition; all guided by your soul’s higher purpose.”

Margaret M. Lynch
The Secret of Intentional Wealth

Photo “Hibiscus” by AORizzo, 2011

The Mysteries of Manifesting

Posted on June 15, 2011 by JanetEisenbise

“You’ll see it when you believe it.” ~Wayne Dyer~

Those who know me well know that I am a big fan of Wayne Dyer. His books have been an important part of my personal growth and development, and I frequently recommend them to clients and friends as well. If you look down at the Amazon widget, you will find one of my favorites, The Power of Intention.

From the days of his earliest writing he was a proponent of assertive behavior; of standing up for yourself, accepting responsibility for your own emotional reactions and action. Dyer is all about living from a position of personal power and responsibility rather than slipping into victimization and powerlessness.

In time his writing addressed clarifying intentions and how to manifest those intentions. In other words, bringing an idea or desire into concrete reality. There are 9 Steps to Manifestation:

Live from your highest self. “I have a divine ability to manifest and attract all that I need and desire.”
Learn to trust your divine inner wisdom. “I trust in myself and in the wisdom that created me.”
Honor your worthiness to receive. “I deserve to experience divine abundance, for I am a part of God.”
Realize that you are not separate from your environment. “I am one with my surroundings, aware of the connective energy between me and my world.”
Attract to yourself what you desire. “The divine creative power within me brings to me all that I want with happiness, love, and peace.”
Connect to your divinity with Unconditional Love. “I express the energy of unconditional love to all people and all things in my life.”
Detach from the Outcome. “I trust in the universal intelligence that created me to bring my desires to me in just the right way at the perfect time.”
Acknowledge your results with gratitude and generosity. “I am deeply thankful for all that I’ve received, and I enjoy giving to others in the spirit of love and service.”
Meditate to the sound of creation. “I meditate each day to increase my awareness of the divine power within me. Through meditation, I am able to realize the beauty, grace and love that direct my life and fulfill my deepest desires.”

You may agree with me that this is all good stuff. And on some days, especially, a very tall order. I really like the concept of living from power and responsibility. And it makes sense to me that whatever results we experience we have brought into being (or manifested). Working with these principles in an intentional and thoughtful way often runs counter to the prevalent culture, and is usually NOT how most of us were taught to operate.

It is much easier to play small. To hide our lights under the bushel, so to speak. To resort to old patterns of conditioning, to be fearful and negative and to blame whoever is handy for our lot in life. All of which is bound to manifest results that are opposite of our desires for a full, bountiful, lovely life.

This week I was fantasizing about having a conversation with Wayne. You know, walking on the beach in Hawaii as the warm breezes waft over us and the ocean waves provide a soothing backdrop to our talking. I would ask him how to cope, or what to do on those seemingly long stretches between strengthening our intentions and realizing our manifestations. Sometimes he makes this sound easy, and I think it is more like a hike in the desert (okay, so I’m whining a little).

I have been noticing (much to my consternation) that the space between letting go of something from the “old order” and manifesting the “new order,” is really nerve wracking! If you have gone through a big life transition, you know what I am talking about. For instance, deciding that you are going to follow your dreams and relocate across the country (or to a new one). Or that your years of preparation to be a dentist were a big mistake and you want to open a micro brewery instead.

He is fond of saying that we need to release our hold on old fears and negative thoughts that limit our possibilities. I must say from my own experience that just the intention to release something, while not magical, seems to be so in that it is a very powerful catalyst for changing something that seems to be absolutely stuck in you.

Since I am not likely to manifest my fantasy of the walk on the beach with Wayne, this is my take-away from our imaginary talk. I can choose to keep the faith. After all I don’t have a better idea. And to practice the steps; to be resolute in putting one foot in front of the other. To quote him again, “Our intentions create our reality.” And our actions, in alignment with those intentions, are the glue that holds it all together. You can quote me on that.

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Inspired Action

Posted on April 8, 2011 by JanetEisenbise

My daughter has a rescued greyhound named Mudslide, who has been a part of the family for 5 years or so. Which makes him my grand-dog. And although he is a lovable couch potato, we are all in agreement that he is not the sharpest knife in the drawer. And though he can run straight as a bullet on those rare and unfortunate occasions when he broke out of the open front door, he is the most aggravating dog to take on a walk.

He looks around as he goes (is this the curse of a sight hound?) and then slowly ambles where ever he is looking. He cannot heel to save his life, and walks in front of you, or lags behind, wandering all over the sidewalk. Recently I observed that he walks around more like a chicken than a dog. Not pecking the ground, mind you, but you get the drift. Any distraction will pull him off in a new direction. Yesterday he got hit by the baby stroller, which he was supposed to be walking beside.

It occurred to me that although I laugh at Mudslide, I can identify with him more than I care to admit. Being distracted is the bane of my existence. Sometimes it’s a strong emotional reaction to a life event, sometimes it’s a new idea and I am off as if following a bright, shiny object. Maybe you recognize this quality in yourself.

Ironic that I chose to work in settings where I have to structure my own work and the activities of the day. For years I went to an office and followed a schedule that was outlined by my employers. Everything about it except for the therapy I did was structured by someone else. I didn’t like it very much. Although I must say it had its advantages. There were a lot fewer decisions to make. I knew where I would be every day of the week, and the hours that I would be there.

When I decided to follow my life-long desire to write, and then to publish, market information products online, my work day became my full responsibility. Me, the woman who ambles along more like a distracted greyhound than a speeding bullet.

We all know by now that gazing off into the distant vistas and dreaming of new destinations won’t get us where we want to be. Yes, having a vision is important. If you have been reading this blog for long, you know I am a fan of vision boards and connecting with the emotions of WHY you want to do, be or have something different. But we must then take inspired action that will take us step by step along the way.

It seems to me that I need to connect with my vision every day. And to deal with the limiting and conflicted emotions that inevitably come up every day. Recently I listened to an interview with Jack Canfield of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. He said that he has been using EFT or Meridian Tapping every day for years and that he credited that for much of his success in accomplishing what he has.

That got my attention! I am a fan of Meridian Tapping and have been using it for months now and am introducing more of my clients to it. It is inexpensive or free, non-invasive, easy to learn and amazingly effective. Portable, you can do it anywhere, and there seems to be no limit to the personal problems or limitations that you can address.

Yesterday I decided to take on another 30 day challenge. And that is to use Meridian Tapping or EFT at some point in the day, every day. In observing my thoughts and emotions during the day, I will take my cue from whatever challenge is coming up, and do a tapping session. 5, 10 or 15 minutes to clear the emotional obstacles and distractions that are coming up.

If you have some experience with tapping, I invite you to join me. And if you would like more information, you can click on the widget at the top of this page. Leave a comment or feel free to ask a question. We’d like to hear about your experiences.

Is EFT the Path to Your Heart’s Desire?

Posted on February 17, 2011 by JanetEisenbise

“There are things I can’t force. I must adjust.
There are times when the greatest change needed
is a change in my viewpoint.” ~Anonymous

Have you desired a great experience, set a goal and then been completely frustrated with your seeming inability to get there? Do you procrastinate? Do you decide to do something different and then find every excuse imaginable not to do it?

I sure have and most people I know will admit to the same thing and all the frustration that goes with it. Sometimes it’s downright embarrassing!

And then for some, they may know their heart’s desire but not even mention it to anyone or consider making an actual goal to achieve it. It just seems preposterous to even imagine, must less plan, to make such a change!

If any of this sounds familiar, there is a tool or method that is free to use, non-invasive and safe that will help remove these limiting beliefs and emotions that are preventing you from living the life you desire.

http://tinyurl.com/4kzf6eb

EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique and is also known as Meridian Tapping. It is a great tool for psychological change which has been around for awhile and is now being more widely used than ever before.

The subject of some interesting research, EFT has been found to be an effective tool in healing the trauma that leads to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). The beliefs and emotions that are crippling to PTSD sufferers are an extreme example of how the unconscious mind can interfere with living a happy and productive life.

Even those who have not experienced a high level of trauma in life, are usually saddled with some negative programming or beliefs and emotions that have become an automatic response when attempting to make life changes.

Something is blocking your progress; otherwise you would already be having, doing or being your heart’s desire, wouldn’t you?

EFT or Meridian Tapping is based on stating emotional beliefs along with tapping on certain acupuncture or acupressure points on the body. It is an energetic healing way of releasing those negative emotions that are getting in your way.

If you would like to learn more about this, you can access a free World Tapping Summit here

http://tinyurl.com/4kzf6eb

The Power of the Mind

Posted on February 10, 2011 by JanetEisenbise

“Great minds have purpose, others have wishes.” ~Washington Irving

Would you like to know why EFT works and why it’s so effective? EFT is Emotional Freedom Technique, a process that has been around for some time, and is now being more widely used and studied. Today you can access a fascinating video on the Power of the Mind with Bruce Lipton who explains how your thoughts can make you sick, broke and unhappy.

In the video Bruce Lipton, a cellular biologist and best- selling author, is about to explain to you why he considers EFT to be like “super learning”.

Sometimes despite our best intentions, we find ourselves frustrated at our life circumstances and lack of fulfillment and happiness. Most people will point to the outside events or people in their lives and blame them for their emotional turmoil or lack of progress.

“If only…” the economy was better; the Democrats (or Republicans) were or weren’t in power; I had better job; the sun was shining; or so-and-so weren’t behaving the way he is…I could be happy. Sound familiar?

Bruce explains how mistaken these beliefs are. And if you have ever tried to paste some happy or positive thoughts on top of them, he explains why regular “positive thinking” doesn’t work and what will work instead.

Most of the beliefs or thoughts that we have are programmed or habitual. Often we aren’t even aware of them because they are like wallpaper you have been living with your entire life. Even if it’s ugly, after awhile you don’t even notice it. And these thoughts are responsible for establishing our emotions, moods and behaviors. The good news is that you can use EFT to reprogram your mind to get what you want in life

http://tinyurl.com/4fufe28

Bruce Lipton is a cellular biologist who has spent years studying how our thoughts affect us in all areas of life. His scientific studies are so shocking and revealing and have such wide ranging ramifications that some established communities have gone to great lengths to keep them hidden, especially the medical community.

Bruce Lipton has out-right said that the majority of medical studies done today are inaccurate and misleading and he has the proof to show why.

If you’re ready for some mind blowing information on how your thoughts affect all areas of your life and how you can use EFT to be healthy, wealthy and happy then I highly suggest watching this video:

Here are a few of the things that he discusses:

Why positive thinking is not enough to change your life (and what he says does work)
How the unconscious programming you received in childhood is affecting you today (And what you can do about the programs that aren’t serving you)
The one simple belief that traditional medicine is based on that is 100% false.

This video is guaranteed to be one of the most eye opening videos you’ll see all year.

By the way, this video is part of the Tapping World Summit Video series being released over the next few days, at no cost to you; leading up to this enormous event starting on Feb. 21st (Last year over 100,000 people attended this event online).

You won’t want to miss it!

http://tinyurl.com/4fufe28

So What’s the Secret?

Posted on November 1, 2010 by JanetEisenbise

Tomorrow is election day in the United States. It is a mid-term election, which often gets short shrift in the attention of the voters. If we are to believe the newscasters and pundits (yes, a big “IF,” it’s true) this one may have more than the usual turnout.

Years ago, Dr. Andrew Weil suggested as a part of his 8 Days to Better Health, that we stop watching and reading the news in order to reduce stress levels. Advice that I took to heart. Although I listen to NPR regularly, I rarely see network news because I find the “facts” delivered in short sound bites interspersed with even longer advertising to be really annoying. And there seems no shortage of awful and alarming news. Often I notice that even the weather is portrayed as awful and alarming!

A few years ago we were treated to a teaser for the road to a better life with a book and movie called The Secret. I call it a teaser because although it was about the Law of Attraction, which is a big paradigm change for most of us, it seemed to leave a lot out. For practical use of the LOA in changing your life, it remained largely a secret.

It seems to me that one of the most basic and important steps to attracting results that you desire into your life, is to learn to observe your own thoughts and feelings and to shift them away from all the bad, alarming focus that makes you miserable and keeps you stuck, to desirable ones.

It is easy to slide back into our negative, well habituated ways of thinking and behaving. After all we’ve had years to establish these patterns, and when stressed they become our “default” mode. And if we are thinking and doing the same old thing, we are of course going to get the same old results.

There is good news though. The brain has much greater plasticity or ability to change than you know. We can build new neuropathways that lead to new and better results.

There are some great resources to help you do this. I have reviewed some of them and will continue to tell you about resources that come from credible people. One that recently came to my attention is a DVD series taught by Bob Proctor and Mary Morrissey. They are both writers and speakers who have years of experience using and teaching the tenants of the Law of Attraction.

If you find yourself going back to old, familiar negative patterns, check this out. And even if you are pessimistic that there even IS a secret to getting the results you desire, you owe it to yourself to do a little
more reading.

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Oh, and by the way, even if you doubt that you make a difference, go vote anyway!