“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
~ H. Jackson Brown Jr.~
Every year the last days of December prompt at least a superficial evaluation of what happened during the previous year. We can find magazine issues devoted to the most influential people of the year or history shaping events such as a national election. And certainly our minds drift to the major news events, as well as the more personal events that mark both positive and negative milestones of our lives.
It might be the birth of a new family member, or a marriage or a divorce or death of someone important to you. Or a graduation, promotion or retirement that has occurred and that will be life changing on some level. And then, of course, we may revisit the resolutions that we considered or even committed to at the end of last year. Did you forget about what you desired after a few weeks or months? Or are you feeling proud of progress that you made?
I just read an amusing tweet from someone who said she was debating about whether to form her new year’s resolutions or take a nap. Someone replied that she should make a resolution to take more naps. Which might not be a bad idea when you think about it. For those who find themselves living on a treadmill of responsibilities at home and more of the same at work, taking breaks can be a big boon to mental and physical health.
It seems that whether the resolution is for changing a bad habit or working harder on something, or improving some element of personal development, most people give up pretty quickly on making changes. Probably the biggest reasons for this are two-fold: a lack of clarity for what is motivating this change, (in other words, WHY they are willing to make the change); and making a realistic plan for HOW to achieve the change.
If you don’t stay connected with what is motivating you, and your reasons are not compelling enough to overcome your human, natural resistance to change, then your efforts will likely fizzle out. Who hasn’t found the weather too cold, your energy level too low, or another “great reason” to put off until tomorrow whatever you have resolved to begin today? Probably everyone.
There are tips and tools that can shore up your resolve as well as help pave the way to change. One of the best that I use and recommend is one that you can access at The Tapping Solution, which is a program of EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. If you check out the site, you will see an icon that you can click to download a free e-book that nicely explains EFT and how you can apply it in your life. You will also see a reasonably priced DVD that you can order which is an interesting film of a retreat in which participants from various life situations meet and learn to use the techniques. My personal favorite is the membership site which has a wealth of products and lessons you can follow, made available by some of the foremost EFT coaches in the world.
It’s easy to be cynical about making substantial changes in your life, and maybe you have felt discouraged by your lack of progress in the past. However, I would urge you not to give up on living a satisfying and meaningful life. Support and help is all around you if you open yourself to seeing the possibilities. Don’t stay stuck in the safety zone of what is comfortable and familiar to you. You really do deserve to have, be and do better. Get some support and determine to be in a place you really desire at the end of the coming year!