"Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time."                      ~Mark Twain

With the beginning of the New Year, many of us have some new resolutions in mind.  Or maybe as I indicated in my last post, some recycled resolutions from the previous years. 

While it is important to have the Big Picture in mind, it is only in taking small, consistent steps that we move along on our journey.  So yes, by all means you need to develop your map to your desired destination to better relationships, better health, a different career, financial freedom, or whatever it is. 

But don’t get bogged down by overwhelming yourself with a huge task.  Remember that all we have in terms of making life change is this immediate moment:  Right Now. 

The next 10 posts are going to be about what you can do Right Now to change the quality of your life. 

The first one is to quit complaining.  This one is simple, but not easy.  Chronic complaining is more of an epidemic than Swine Flu, and more toxic in its effects.  Today observe the conversations around you.  Notice how much of the talk in the office or the lunch room, or the television commentary consists of complaining.

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      "We do not attract what we want, but that which we are."   ~James Allen                                    
                                                         
 It’s the beginning of a
new year and a new decade, and I have been thinking about goals and the process
of reaching goals.  Like many of you, I
do this every December and January.

 But this year I am seeing
it a little differently.  When I look
back at the goals that I set at the beginning of this year I see that
many of them are the same.

 Some of them have been
goals of mine for a number of years. 
Goals like increasing my income; getting healthier; building new
relationships and strengthening old ones, etc.

 Am I discouraged to be
working on the same things?  Am I
embarrassed that I haven’t “arrived”?  I
used to be.  I used to be taking my
personal inventory and chewing myself out for not attaining everything I had
set out to do.  My end-of-the-year
internal rant.

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